Lust: Men Are Not Alone

My last post I talked about the need of modesty for men. Maybe I should have started off with this post, as it explains why women need modest men. Here's the deal: We struggle with lust. However, our issue of lust is not (usually) physical as a man's. Seeing a man dressed provocatively is not likely to stir our hearts and cause us to stumble; a man's actions and words with us will, though.
The only reason I can speak on this subject is because I have struggled with lust. I didn't have this concept explained to me until my freshman year in college and I didn't really think or believe that every woman struggles with lust until reading the book Every Woman's Battle.
What I learned from that, and my experience, is that my heart can become easily entangled with a man through his immodest actions. Long one-on-one conversations, talking of deep hurt and pain, and other conversations which should be done at a heart level with a woman, when done with a man can cause an attachment which simply should not be there.This also causes thoughts that should not be there.
God had to work mightily and deeply in my heart to free me of this because it was not all about a man's actions. God brought me face-to-face with the truth that I was looking to men for comfort when I should be looking to God alone and that I did not really trust and believe God's goodness in providing a husband in his timing and in his way.
Did I have MANY issues that caused these wrong thoughts? Yes, absolutely. Were there times and situations where a man's questions were leading somewhere they should not go or his actions and words were revealing intent he did not have? Sadly, yes.
I feel so much of the modesty and lust issue goes to the heart in two ways:
1. Do we truly believe God is loving and good to provide what we need when we need? If so, can we trust and wait on him or do we feel we may (in some way) need to take control of this issue?
2. Can we learn to truly practice the one another commands of Scripture? Can we learn to truly honor our brothers and sisters and treat them as that? Can we learn to love one another well considering how we can truly, lovingly spur one another on with no hidden motive or agenda?