Saturday, June 25, 2011

Single and Content (?)

I grew up hearing from so many people that once you are "content" with being single then God will provide you with a spouse. I've been told that once you stop looking, then God will bring that person into your life, but you have to get to that point where you're not thinking about it or looking for someone.
Here's my deal - I want to be married. I really can't think of an extended period of time where there hasn't been this desire. I feel absolutely vulnerable in admitting that because, as I said, I have always gotten this sense that once you're "content in Jesus" then this desire will go away.
I'd like to challenge that concept. I was thinking of Paul's comment in Philippians 4 about learning to be content... and then about getting along with "humble means" and "going hungry."
My thought - contentment may not be about denying or ignoring one's desire, but accepting where you're at and not depending on a spouse for one's happiness. And that's what I've started to realize more and more - started to realize that where I am is God's gift to me for this time. Yes, I still do desire to be married and have a family, but God has brought me to this stage of my life for a reason and He wants to bless and use me as I am. I hope and pray to continue to keep my eyes on God and accept the gift He has given me, yet not be scared of(or deny) the fact that yes, I would love to be married.

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