One of the things that I have heard about being single is that you have to become "whole" before being married, or that God wants to make you "complete" before He will bring you a spouse. I think the concept is that you should not sit around doing nothing while waiting to be married, but continue to grow in sanctification. But what often comes about is that there is something wrong with you that God must fix before He can give you the gift of a spouse.
But God does not work as we expect. And we can never get to a place where we are "whole" enough before God will give us the gift of a spouse. It is his gift to give.
I know these people mean well, but I think we need a better and bigger understanding of God. God, for His reasons, will have some amazing people wait a lot longer then they would want before getting married. God for His reasons will bring two people together who you just wonder about. None of us will be "whole." Ever. We are all broken before God; marriage doesn't make us whole and remaining single longer won't. God has different gifts for different times for different people and will continue to work through a believer to conform them to the image of Christ - married or single.
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