Through our engagement period, Magnus and I have gotten to the point where we'll look at one another and say "I want to be married now" or "Why are we waiting so long?"Not only that, but our engagement period will actually be longer than our time dating - not the normally recommended course. Thankfully, that day is approaching!
As I processed this question of why we are waiting so long before God I find that one of the primary answers he gives is that he wants to prepare us for marriage, not just a wedding day. (NOTE: I am NOT saying that those with a short engagement period are preparing for the wedding and not the marriage, I am saying this is what I believe the case is for us before God).
I find this true due to the conversations we have, the conflict that comes up, the experiences God is bringing us through together, and the trust and patience it is developing in each of us. We do not have the excuse of lots of pressure in the wedding planning process to use to sweep hard issues under the rug - we have time to face them head on. These conversations are the primary thing. Those conversations where I don't quite understand what is happening, but then I see my sin, and cringe. Those conversations where Magnus amazes me and repents of something. Those conversations - they are so hard, but they are preparing us in ways I know we cannot expect or imagine for marriage.
So as the days are dwindling between now and the wedding day, my hope and prayer is that we not get lost in the details of the wedding and forget to look at God, and prepare for a married life together. In the midst of the waiting, it's good to remember that God knows what he's doing and he is good.
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